I seem to be inspired by other bloggers this week! And this time is no different. This time, it’s a post by Freechick about 5 things men don’t understand about women. I’ll fire the first shot in this here post by saying that she should have titled that ’5 things PEOPLE don’t understand about women.” There, I said it. Her five things were:
Why We Don’t Like Other Girls
Why We Always Skirt Around An Issue
Why We Dissect Everything
Why We’re So Insecure
I will address these, more or less, on some level or another, but I just started typing and I am not going to edit, so if anyone is offended by this post, I’m not surprised.
Mood swings are fine, but women don’t seem too understand them either! They rarely realize ‘wow, that reaction seemed a little over the top and made no sense whatsoever…. oh, I’m having mood swings.’ It’s usually more like ‘HOW COULD YOU NOT LIKE THE PINA COLADA SONG? Are you completely insensitive and heartless? And where’s my drink?”
Why don’t women like other women… girls are bitches – that says it all. Why are they bitches to each other? Because they all project their own feelings onto other people, and it’s easier to attack that bitch over there for implying you have cankles than to attack yourself for thinking you do. This same phenomenon is true for dates with the boyfriend or husband: “What do you want to eat/see/listen to/do/watch?” The woman has no idea, and can’t come up with anything, but it’s much easier to listen to the guy’s suggestion and attack it on some basis than it is to admit she doesn’t know! And if THIS isn’t the case, she’s already decided and she’s just corralling the guy into her predetermined choice by shooting down all his suggestions until he’s like “so I don’t want to see Avengers, I want to see… Notebook II? And then go shopping? Right?”
Women don’t say what they mean! They say X but mean Y… why not just say Y to start out with? Don’t say “it sure is cold in here” – say “hey, can I wear your coat? I’m cold.” A statement is a statement, not a request. You know what is a request? A REQUEST is a request! Shocking, I know. But I’ve figured this out – a woman doesn’t want to admit that she foolishly didn’t bring something warm to wear, so this is her tactic for dealing with it – it’s much easier for her to make a guy feel bad for not offering his coat than it is for her to admit she can’t plan, prepare or read weather reports…. or calendars.
Now, I’m going to make a mind-blowing observation:
Women are insecure because they have mood swings, don’t say what they mean, and dissect everything, especially other girls.
Women compare themselves to other women all the time. And that’s fine, but they choose to focus on the one area where another woman is better than them rather than the many many areas in which they are better than the other woman. This leads to insecurity and mood swings.
Say a woman asks a guy if he loves her, and he says ‘yes’. Women will take the one word ‘yes’ and analyze the shit out of it (as Freechick put it, shrugging, inflection, tone of voice, actions matching words, etc.), but when they say ‘let’s take a vacation’ they think that ‘why don’t you book us a vacation’ is clear. In other words, the guy that answers a direct question (Do you love me?) with a direct answer (Yes) gets analyzed, but the woman who just makes a statement of opinion that really means something else…. should be taken at face value? Which face?
Contributing to a woman’s insecurity are:
Critically staring into a mirror
Bad hair days
Voices inside her head
And contributing to a woman’s sense of self worth are:
A guy telling her she looks pretty
Yeah, we have no fucking chance! How are we supposed to overcome all that overwhelming soul-shredding?
And forget the myth that guys look better as they age. That’s true for SOME guys, but not all, just as it is for women. Some guys lose their head hair and gain hair in other places, gain weight, get pasty, etc. And you ladies, I hear your catty conversations:
“Did you see that guy? He actually thought he was something, coming up to me all bald and wrinkled. Please.”
But think about it. The guy is doing the right thing! He’s going on about his business with no regard for how he looks! Assuming he has some other redeeming qualities like a sense of humor or compassion or kindness, his strategy will pay off because he has confidence that isn’t based on looks. And that’s where women go wrong! They base a certain amount of confidence on their looks, and when their looks fade, their confidence fades. So, like, don’t do that and junk. But I know women will continue to do it.
Here’s the mindblowing revelation I think you should all read and think about for a long time: Women should be THANKING the porn industry! THANKING it! That’s right, I said thanking it. According to some, uh, friends who watch porn – not really close friends, more like acquaintances, really… I barely know them… okay, a group of friends and brothers who I had a discussion about it with once – there is a HUGE increase in real women and older women in porn. And porn is both live and extremely low-budget… so there’s no editing, no cleaning up, no retouching, no cuts, no computer enhancement… What you see is what you get. And they’re not ‘perfect’, oh no. They have cellulite, and stretch marks, and blemishes, etc. etc…. and that’s the younger ones. The older ones also have wrinkles and are a little chubby or whatever….
But the guys are EATING THAT UP, so to speak! Guys not only don’t care about one or more imperfections, they also don’t care about age! Older women, MILFs, cougars, soccer moms, etc. – guys love that, and a couple of wrinkles by the eyes or something are totally unimportant. No, what guys are looking for, or at, is not a woman with a perfect body, but a woman with confidence.
And I can hear you all thinking ‘but you can’t have one without the other, Hotspur’ – and you couldn’t be more wrong. Attraction is about more than looks, more than physical. Let’s step away from the porn for a minute… HEY! Step away from the porn! Come on, leave it alone. Just for a minute…. and talk real life. Are the guys interested just because it’s porn?
I would submit that they are not. Guys are interested in women who aren’t necessarily 100% physically perfect, aren’t necessarily young, aren’t necessarily ‘on’ all the time ANYWAY. That’s what guys are looking for now. And the porn just reflects the popularity of the preference THAT ALREADY EXISTS in men. So stop worrying about every little thing! It’s like worrying about the lower left hand corner of the center left middle section, halfway up, of the Mona Lisa – NO REASONABLE PERSON is looking at the picture that fucking closely! They’re looking at the OVERALL picture! And that’s what they’re doing with you as well.
Now, some of you might be thinking that this post is all over the place and completely makes no sense and is typical of a guy, but to that I have just one thing to say:
It sure is clueless in there.